I wanted to thank everyone that has spurred me on to start this blog about parenting. I also wanted to express the report John Stossel did blew my mind. No wonder we are in trouble in this world. I will start by saying that it has been an honor to raise three amazing young ladies, I am far from done. It is the hardest job anyone could sign up for. Yes it is a choice. I should add here I may not appeal to everyone. As a matter of fact I am not politically correct, have been known to be a little rough around the edges, have a sharp tongue and have been referred to as a bear cub in a crate of eggs(often). Having said that I believe that the political correctness has a lot to do with where we are at in our society today and how we are rearing our children. Growing up with religion and then off into the more spiritual and influences from the Native Americans, yes I am the only child that went to energy camp, believe me when I say I have studied every religion and virtually all cultures. The end result has allowed me the abilities to view life and why we are here in a far broader view point. The common denominator is “The Golden Rule”. Simple as this right?
The Golden rule is defined as an ethical code or morality that essentially states either of the following; One would treat others as one would like others to treat oneself . A basic principle that should be followed to ensure success in general or in a particular activity.
I have recently experienced behavior from college students that made my eldest daughter and I both really question humanity and what are we teaching our children. I by far have not raised my children in what I like to refer to the “mall nation”. They have had a great balance of nature, animals and the living the fundamentals of the golden rule infused into their daily lives. Back to the college roommates. I had to move her out of the apartment because of the two roommates ganging up on her and behaving like the most entitled, disrespectful bottom feeders. When I arrived there I was spoken to in a manner in which I wouldn’t even consider to anyone much less an elder. When I was growing up I was taught to respect others especially elders. What has gone wrong? What would happen to you if you did this? The bottom line is the behavior turned into criminal acts, and my daughter is now out of harms way and the lesson was clear. To live by the golden rule and if you have people in your life that don’t subscribe to the same rule than adios.
I still have girls in high school and the truth is it makes it harder to deal with a diverse school environment when you have this constitution. Either you become intolerant of this behavior and you have very few friends, or you become immune to it, or you join in the shenanigans. The last is not an option for my girls. I would not stand for it, and they wouldn’t either. My intention for sharing this information with you is to provide information, ideas, and perhaps some solutions to assist you in growing well adjusted, responsible, considerate, healthy (body, mind, spirit, and soul) contributors to our society and our world. Yes, this is our anthem. Yes, I have them repeat this all the time. So with this being said I am going to highlight five things you can do today that will help you and your children live by the golden rule. If you are reading this and are divorced, congratulations welcome to the 50% plus club. I am a single parent and I will be adding extra information about how to run YOUR house and your rules even if the x partner is not on the same page or even in the same book for that matter.
#1. Children need to be heard. The best way to do this is to use these words “you must feel strongly about that”. You must have a safe place for them to speak about their issues. No answers, no judgment, just allow them to be heard.
#2. There are no letters between N and O. No is a requirement to parenting. Pave the road for them people. They need boundaries, healthy ones.
#3. If you are worried about them not liking you get over yourself! I often tell my children that you may not like me today and I am really ok with it. Go play the song from Van Morrison called “There’ll be days like this”, or the remake of “Teenage daughters” by Martina Mcbride and get over it.
#4. If you have younger children give them a camera. Don’t get me started on the cell phone, give them a camera. You can do disposable ones and allow them to take pictures outside preferably or wherever their imagination feel free. You will be amazed at what they are looking at and what makes their spirit sing. It gave me huge insights when my girls were young.
#5. I have a saying that if you don’t want to look in the mirror don’t have children. Truth be told they offer us the opportunity to grow, learn and examine parts of ourselves that may need to be tended to. Be grateful and remember we are infinite spirits living a very temporary human existence. You are a gift and so are our children. Cherish them, love them and most importantly laugh and I mean laugh at yourself and laugh at the lessons that come up every single day. You will flourish as a parent and are in the long run doing a service to our society and our world.
I bless each and every single one of you that has taken time out to read this. I welcome your comments, and whatever topics you want to discuss next I am ready to oblige.
Yes, this is me, The Mystic Cowgirl.